I want to be a good wife and mother. Its a very simple goal and one that I've yet to meet despite it being so simple! I am sure a lot of other people are in the same boat, especially in this day and age. But I feel as if I let my family down.

So how do I become a good wife and mother I ask myself. The answer is very simple really. It is understanding the needs of my hubby and children and fulfilling them. It is all about knowing and understanding my husband and kids really well. It is knowing the way to their hearts. But knowing is not enough. The next step is doing or fulfilling their hearts desire.

For my hubby, the way to his heart is to become more dependable, more organised and to do many more things together with him more frequently. It is also to just deal with what I have to do as a mother and a wife without complaining. Getting him to open up and remembering to talk and communicate is another issue. But it is half my fault too!  Yes, love really does go round. When you give love, you receive love.

For my kids, the way to their hearts is to listen to them and to play with them. Thats even simpler but again I have trouble fulfilling this simple thing. I have all sorts of excuses from me time to lack of time. I don't fulfil it and as a result I get kids who at times shout at me when I ask them to do something or to help me out. My son still needs guidance as to how to play and interact with out people as he can have a bad, short temper. I know that the way to my kids hearts is to listen and to play with them. And when I do this, they don't act up. They become very nice, loving kids who listen to me.

So now that I've written down the simple things I need to do to become a better wife and mother, like any other goal, I must break them up into smaller more manageable tasks so that I meet those goals.